Traditional Wedding Invitation Wording & Etiquette

For wedding invitations, sending a Facebook invite to 200 of your closest friends unfortunately doesn’t cut it. Whether you design your own or get them professionally made, your invitations should reflect the priceless value of your wedding in Worcester MA. If you want to follow tradition, follow these guidelines for a wedding invitation wording and etiquette.

When? As a courtesy to your guests, send invitations at least six to eight weeks in advance of your wedding date. Allow another six to eight weeks to design, print, and address them. This enables you to have enough time to contact non-responders and make your seating chart, as well as time for your guests to make travel arrangements.

Wedding Invitation Wording Although there are countless ways you can word your wedding invitation, tradition states that it begins with the bride’s parents followed by the bride’s name. If the bride’s parents are not hosting or the situation is different, check out the Wedding Channel’s Guide to Invitation Wording. Take note that abbreviations are never used, such as “street” instead of “St.” and “Massachusetts” instead of “MA.”

 Mr. and Mrs. Bob Smith
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
Sally Lynn
Fred Matthew
on Saturday, the eighth of April
two thousand fourteen
at two o’clock in the afternoon
The Beechwood Hotel
363 Plantation Street
Worcester, Massachusetts

Dress Code Unless it is absolutely necessary, avoid including the dress code on the invitation. If it is needed, place it in the lower right-hand corner of the reception invitation—not the ceremony invitation. Be clear and specific as to not confuse or mislead.

RSVP Card The RSVP card should be printed on the same type of paper as the invitation in the following format.

accepts _____
regrets _____

Guests will write the names of the attending guests after the “M.” (For example, Mr. and Mrs. Jane Johnson.) Avoid printing “number of persons” since only the names on the envelope are invited. An addressed stamped envelope should be provided so guests only have to fill it out and put it in the mailbox.

Envelope Similar to the invitation, do not use abbreviations on the envelope (except for the state.) Write exactly who is invited on the envelope. Be clear and do not include “and family” unless you are prepared to host someone’s entire extended family. If you’re inviting plus-ones, write “Ms. Hannah Price and Guest”. Send a separate invitation for guests over the age of 13, but note that it is perfectly acceptable to not invite children.

Save-the-Dates are helpful but not necessary. They give your guests advanced notice to clear their schedules. In addition, they allow more room to be fun and creative. Send them out as soon as the date is confirmed or about six months in advance. Rehearsal dinner invitations are not needed for informal gatherings with the wedding party and immediate family, but they might be a good idea for large dinners with many guests.

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